Wedding Acceptance
May 31, 2009
Welcome back!
What happened to the ‘American Dream’ of brides, grooms, bridesmaids, groomsmen and all of that partying? If you ask someone walking down the street, they’ll each have something different to say about weddings. We won’t even go into marriages. That’s not our main focus here. No, what we are talking about is Wedding Acceptance.
It doesn’t matter what your beliefs are concerning weddings. What is important is your being invited to share something that is important, to someone else. That means, you must put your thoughts aside, whether they are positive ones or not, and find a reason to celebrate someone else’s happiness. Just the thought of watching people in love can turn the stomachs of those unfortunate souls who have not had success with either a good wedding or a good marriage following the wedding. So, what is that poor unfortunate soul to do?
First, decide what is more important. Will it be the essence of the invitation, or your own personal experiences? If you are the kind of person to accept an invitation, go to the wedding, and spend the day being a negative force, either passively or aggressively; you should have declined. Make up an excuse, or something nice, but do not go. There is nothing worse for a bride and groom to look into the crowd and see someone who looks like they’ve smelled something bad, all evening long. Are you guilty of this? What do you get by putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation like that, just to save face?
Of course, the invitations are sent out long before the actual date, so if your first instinct is not to go, then by all means, kindly RSVP back and tell the happy couple you will not be attending. Wedding Acceptance is more than a couple bragging about their good fortune. There are many factors that must be addressed, and the invitation is the way of figuring out cost. The day will continue with or without you, so why not tell them to move to the next person on the list.
I guess it’s difficult for a divorcee to attend a ceremony so filled with happiness and hope it can make you cry, when your marriage itself ended disastrously. Best not to go. No one would hate you, besides, you can always look at the photos, or videos later and the pretending won’t be as long.
There is such a thing called Wedding Acceptance etiquette, whether it is discussed or not. Perhaps, it should be discussed more with the public. Another must know, is for the bridal party to RSVP as well. If you think that just by being at the wedding is enough, you are so terribly wrong. What if you were to bring a guest and you hadn’t told the caterer yourself, how would they know? Should they assume an extra guest for each member for the party? What if that person doesn’t bring anyone, but the caterer assumed you would, and charged the bride and groom for that extra plate? The cost can be outrageous when planning a wedding, and even though the parents of the happy couple don’t mind paying, it stands to reason; they don’t want to pay for absentee attendees.
If you receive an invitation and you don’t want to go, please be considerate. There is protocol to Wedding Acceptance. Someone will form a negative opinion about you if you don’t RSVP Do the right thing folks.
